I remember reading somewhere that once you get going on building a website, the process is addictive. You learn a technique, then you add another technique. Sitting home tonight playing on my lawlady.typepad.com site, I get that premise. Blogging reminds me of putting together a puzzle. It gets better the more time you invest. That's how life goes. The more you invest into something, the deeper, richer, and more beloved it becomes.
The inverse is true as well. If you let something go long enough without attention it can atrophe. That's what kills so many marriages. Did you know that the Gottman Institute has identified one of the leading predictors of divorce and that is ignoring and not responding to your spouse when they vie for your attention? The Gottman Institute has a radically awesome marriage assessment lab. They stick couples in the monitored apartment and then measure their interactions. Time has proven that the couples who pay attention when their partner speaks show a higher percentage of longevity in their relationship.
This theory that what we focus on grows is at the heart of the New Age community's theory about manifestation. If what we focus on grows... then why focus on things you hate, desire to avoid, and do not want more of? Focus on positives, and your life becomes more positive.
This is why I encourage my divorcing clients to look beyond the immediate divorce and see out to a beautiful world and life just beyond the horizon of divorce. It can make the travels through the hell of divorce less hot.
I want to thank my younger self for blogging. It has been fun sitting home tonight and rereading my old blog entries tonight. My hope is keep focusing so that some day I reach the 500 blog entry mark, and the 500 reader comment mark. Good things are coming here at lawlady.typepad.com. And I'm sure good things are coming to you to. Maybe over the horizon.
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