Divorce work is emotionally hard work and comes with a high burnout rate for lawyers. I thought I was finished with divorce work when I shut down the shutters at Lawlady Inc in January 2010 . I assumed I would move on to other work after taking time to relax and regroup. After a nice break, my interest in divorce and couple's work renewed. I'm returning to work in the "divorce industry" with a different approach. I'll be writing about the topic, preparing online content, and taking divorce coaching clients. It's a good feeling to move into career spring (even as the weather turns cold).
I'm very impressed with the curative power of taking time off. My hope is that someday America will be a country with the vacation time seen in other countries like France... where month long vacations are the norm. Divorce lawyers, given the high emotional volitility of our work, need good restorative vacations. I'm living proof that with a healthy sabbatical, zest for a subject can reemerge. Even for a tired attorney.
Great to see you haven't given up on us ladies yet, it's helping to renew my hope. I've been going through a rough divorce for the last year. I'm not sure how much more money I can put out for court cost's, when all I want is for this nightmare to be over.
Posted by: New Jersey divorce attorney | November 15, 2010 at 12:32 PM
Indeed, taking time off is very helpful not only to tired divorce attorneys, but to everyone else as well, I believe. It's also great that your interest in our profession has been renewed, especially as it needs good lawyers such as yourself.
As a divorce lawyer, you probably are aware about how many people don't know the difference between legal separation and a regular divorce. With that said, I hope you can find the time to read my article "California Divorce Separation" and let me know what you think of it.
I agree that vacations are highly-important, and I bookmarked this blog post on StumbleUpon, delicious, digg, reddit and Google bookmarks.
Posted by: Ed the California Divorce Attorney | November 30, 2010 at 07:47 AM
Oooops, I forgot to put the URL of my article. I think I need a vacation myself! Anyway, here it is: http://californiadivorceforms.org/california-divorce-separation/.
Posted by: Ed the California Divorce Attorney | November 30, 2010 at 07:51 AM
I don't think month long vacations will be the norm in the U.S. anytime soon -- as most people don't know how to use a savings account.
But it would be nice if everybody could take a nice, long hiatus from work :)
-Daniel
Posted by: Tulsa Divorce | December 08, 2010 at 11:44 AM
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Posted by: Account Deleted | January 22, 2011 at 04:26 PM
I still consider it as a quest for every couple.
Posted by: nevada divorce attorney | January 24, 2011 at 11:49 PM
Develop written goals, both personal and professional, that matter to you: career, family, finance, personal and spiritual. List 3-5 priorities under each goal, and be prepared to follow through. Take time each week to review your goals. Get your practice in sync with what you really want, and say bye-bye to burnout.Law practice is brain work, you need time to foster your best creative thinking. If you've let things slip to the point where you don't have productive thinking time then you're robbing yourself.
Posted by: Virginia Alimony Lawyers | February 22, 2011 at 01:06 AM
I can relate to this somehow, I have a friend who studied law and her husband is abroad. Every time they fight, she can't stop but being the one who starts the fight. Maybe it has something to do with the burnout with all that she studied during the BAR exams.
Posted by: free divorce | March 27, 2011 at 04:11 AM
I agree but divorce expert lawyers doesn't need to be out for long, because of the divorce rate here in our country. lot of couples do break up in so many reasons. and needs some legal advice
Posted by: divorce-guide | March 30, 2011 at 05:09 AM
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Posted by: Eve99 | April 19, 2011 at 02:22 PM
I could use a sabbatical! Glad it paid off for you.
Posted by: Jake | June 22, 2011 at 03:48 PM
Transitioning to a role as a divorce mediator rather than litigator would also help with overcoming burnout as divorce mediation is a more amicable process.
Posted by: David | July 25, 2011 at 08:41 AM
True enough, it's easy for us to get burned out. Divorce law can be a fairly thankless job sometimes. Glad to see you have found a way to remain involved in the field and maintain your quality of life at the same time. Cheers!
Posted by: Divorce in Virginia | September 14, 2011 at 11:05 PM