Divorce Garden

At the time I was buying the business property at 68th and Roosevelt-- and I'm talking about the actual weekend the offers were going back and forth-- I was speaking at the International Alliance of Collaborative Professional Conference in Boston.  I remember being at the front of the room speaking about divorce ritual with a group of divorce attorneys and thinking that I wanted to offer clients a space to process their strong feelings during the process. 

The pain of divorce is a shadow pain in our culture.  People going through severe break ups or divorce can have intense emotions but largely these feelings go ignored or missed by others.  Our culture does not embrace the harder emotions (typically) and of all the types of grief, the grief of break up and divorce is probably one of the more unacknowledged varierties. 

So... I had the idea for the public garden space.  A sweet spot dedicated to the passing of relationships. 

Then I moved the office here and found that we had enough issues to worry about from wiring to airconditioning.  The back garden fell off the radar.  So far off the radar that I assumed that it was a temporary flight of fancy that wasn't going to manifest itself.   

Something, however,  has happened recently.  The back garden is beginning to take form.  I've installed 30 or so major plantings and ordered some signage. It's beginning to take shape. 

Now I realize that it makes more sense to open the garden before it is complete and invite divorcing people to come with  their plants to add to the space.  The space will be richer if many hands contribute. At this point, the opening date is slated for September 23, the first day of fall. 

If you are hurting from a break up, one of my clients, or someone who loves gardening, I invite you to stop by and create with me a public space dedicated to the resurrection of fallen love. 

Nothing is sweeter in life than love, and when love ends, fails or completes, art can be made from the vestiges of the relationship.  It's good for the soul and honors that flip side of love:  the ending process. 

If you would like to know more about this project, call me at 206/932-9699.   

Comments

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[Advice for Divorce]

Divorce is really hard on everyone involved, especially the children! Do your best to stay composed through out the process. This Garden helps, as do other soothing activities. Whatever you can do to take your mind off the stress will help you cope with the divorce.

[Divorce Guide]

Getting a divorce is a very scary situation for anyone, especially women. You may be wondering on how to divorce your partner. In society, women are just now starting to earn the respect that they deserve and it is often a risky game that you will be treated fairly in your divorce. However, you can seek free divorce advice online.

[Divorcing Dad]

As much as it pains me to say, I am going through the painful process of divorce. I'm struggling with the cost and I was hoping someone might have some advice on what options I might have.