Divorce Blog

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[Island Lady]

My former husband and I amicably divorced nearly a year ago. In the divorce settlement, I was granted our island home and two cars and he was granted our city townhouse and city car. Other assets were divided per mutual agreement and spelled out as such in the decree. Soon after the decree was signed, I transferred title and ownership of my assets into my name only, where both of our names had been listed. He has yet to do the transfer for the townhouse and the city car. The townhouse deed and property insurance, and the car title still have both our names on them. I've made several requests that he make the legal transfers.
Is there a problem lurking in either his or my future if these ownership transfers are delayed?
Thanks for the great site!

[Mark]

Tammi Faulks
Fax: 805-928-2903

I'd like to tell you the story about a young couple that fell in love. They were both 17 years old. She lived in San Diego with her parents. He was sort of in between. His parent's didn't want him to live with him, and he had no where else go to, so her parents let him move in (in the guest room). This act of kindness on her parent's part would come back to bite them later. Things were going well for him, he had a stable job, and she was attending modeling school.

Then the news came. She was pregnant. This infuriated her parents, but that initial reaction subsided and was replaced with a plan of action. Her dad would help her boyfriend join the Air Force, and they would get married and raise the family that they, prematurely and irresponsibly, created. His parents had nothing to offer. No advice, no assistance, nothing. Her dad was singularly responsible for setting him on the right path.

Things seemed very rosey on the surface. However, her parents didn't know the whole story. When her daughter was four or five years old, they were stationed in North Dokata. It was during the late winter when they went out to eat and some how an argument ensued. When they got home, he went directly into the house and locked her out, along with their daughter who was in a stroller. No matter how much pleading she did, he would not open the door. She called her mom, and her mom pleaded with him to open the door over the phone. This came to no avail. Eventually she gave up and went to a neighbors house to call him. After hours in the cold, he finally opened the door. He never explained his reprehensible actions. This scenario would repeat itself over the course of their marriage.

He would confide in her dad a doubt of his: He doubted that their daughter was actually his. It was this doubt that her parents feel left his wife and their daughter out in 30 degree snow that night at 11pm in North Dakota.

The emotional tyranny suffered by her over the course of their marriage had to be unbearable. His self-inflicted wounds on his arms and chest by wave of his own knife are evidence alone of a deep, dark emotional problem.

After almost ten years of marriage, he decides he has had enough. He files for divorce, over an issue of gambling and money. He didn't ask her if she needed counseling. He didn't ask her for marriage counseling either. He made no attempt to save the marriage. He hires the best attorney in the county, even though he knows he does not have the means to pay for it. She hires an attorney as well, even though she knows she can't pay for it. He fights for over a year, refusing to settle at every corner. Twisting the blade deeper into her spine. Doing everything he can just to annoy her even more.

The irony of it all is, during and even after the divorce, he has asked her to come back to him. He continues to use his children as weapons. During the divorce he would tell their daughter (of whom he doubted his parentage) that her mommy is bad and that she doesn't love her. Yes, it's typical that parents try to turn their children into weapons. Well, maybe not the ones who truly love their children. She, through out all of this ordeal, did not stoop to this low of a level.

The bitter end to this all is that although she sacrificed 10 years of her young life, and a promising modeling career, to be his wife and mother of his children; to be dragged around like baggage to foreign countries where she couldn't even hold a job, and with little opportunity to further her education. Even though she sacrificed all of this for him, he would casually toss her aside, on many occasions, and ultimately in divorce. One must wonder if he sleeps well at night. Or if, had his attorney had all of this knowledge before hand, would she have so zealously pursued her victory in court. It will never be known, that if given the complete truth, would Tammi L. Faulks have even accepted the case of Darryl Vs. Ethelyn.