Life is short, even if it drags for you and it seems like just another night in front of the TV eating the same stuff you always eat. Life is precious. Life is fleeting, if only we could see ourselves from the perspective of angels.
That's why it is imperative that we do all the things that we do wonderfully. It's our only chance here on earth (at least from what we logically know about the facts), and the quality of life will be directly inverse to the ability to bring focus and reverence to our activities. Even gross activities like getting a divorce.
It is highly possible to have a transcendent, poignant divorce experience. I've seen it happen. I've seen it happen to people who you wouldn't think could go there.
The trick is to embrace the experience, good or bad, and face it with the most deeply personal and intimate faculties that you have. Rather than shielding yourself from the full brunt of the divorce, gratefully welcome it in (it's going to happen anyway- why not?). With all dreadful life events we have a choice to accept them sweetly and reverently, or fight them like a fish on a line. You know what I mean. You can bitch and moan about water pump breaking on your car, or you can laugh: another lovable experience of life. That's what living is about. Trashy, bad, disappointing moments that challenge your ability to say "yes, I'm still in the game and loving things down here on planet earth."
Divorce ritual is about making a ceremony out of a mess. Saying yes to the fullness of your life and celebrating the gorgeousness of the human relationship-- from the bottom looking up. When you can rejoice at the shit of life, you're living the good life.
So go burn a candle in honor of that deceitful spouse; grieve a little with some good poetry on a nice moonlit clear night; surrender to the fantasies about what you want next and write a poem to the Gods to cast into the ocean, or a nearby fountain. Life is best when you can give yourself permission to believe in miracle.
Encounter a miracle. Do a divorce ceremony for your self.